I am following pretty much the same steps, but with no luck. Question regarding step 13 : you said that you enabled the extension. Do you mean that you enabled only the extension and not the App Bundle containing the extension?
In the meanwhile I dug a bit more into the logs and I could see another error that could help:
tccd: [com.apple.TCC:access] Failed to create LSApplicationRecord for file:///Library/SystemExtensions/34CA2880-358B-4E1B-BB5D-FE3AD9022E4D/com.X.Y.systemextension/: 'The operation couldn’t be completed. (OSStatus error -10811.)'
It looks kind of similar to this and this. Do you have any idea what's the status for the feedback tickets opened as a follow up of these posts? Do you think they might be related to my case?