You're not alone... I spent weeks troubleshooting a kernel panic on my brand new top-of-the-line 16" MacBook Pro and eventually figured it was caused by connecting an external monitor via DisplayPort. The crash report looks similar to one of your issues: element modified after free. Apple support is truly infuriating. After a million useless steps they won't accept the blame and just point fingers at "third-party" devices... I mean, hello??? It's just a bloody monitor! As it turned out, I found two workarounds that may help you: 1) use HDMI instead of DisplayPort, or 2) disable DisplayPort 1.2 support on your monitor if possible. Both aren't great options of course as your max resolution may be limited, but it may be better than multiple crashes a day.
See this other thread: https://developer.apple.com/forums/thread/678644